Present that was hard to send

My cousin just gave birth to a lovely baby boy.
Our family history is quite complex. The most memorable thing is that her dad(my uncle) was the only one who really slapped me hard on the face when I was something like 5 or 6. I literally flew for a bit and peed myself, and was just crying and crying.

The uncle had quite the tragic life. Then again how can a person without history hit a 5 year old that hard..

He was the golden boy of the Kim family. Oldest (this mattered a lot in the past), did brilliant at school, everybody looked forward to his future so much. His room was full of trophies and certificates of excellence at school. I guess this led him to look forward to his own as well.

To everyone's surprise he did not make it to the Korean Harvard, SNU. He still got accepted by the second or third(depends on who you ask) best school but he did not accept. However he had to be the best. He tried over and over and over again. Until after a few years my dad, his younger brother went into SNU and he failed once more.

He decided to not even go to Uni at all.
It was downward and downward ever since.
He did get married but she turned out to be schizophrenic. This was snugly kept in secret until he found out about it himself.

They still had kids. My two cousins.
I heard he pushed the two girls (my cousins) so hard. He even sold his property to move to Seoul paying rent to get them into better high schools. They id not live up to his sky high expectations.

Uncle himself got himself really sick. Did not take care of himself at all. Was almost a suicide the way he died. Just doing nothing where he had many ways to make himself better.

My dad tried a lot to help. I remember him regularly visiting his older brother’s hospital to wash him and talk to him.

In the end, my dad showed up when my cousin introduced her side of the family to her to be husband’s family. Also, my dad was the one who walked my cousin down the aisle on her wedding day.

I barely remember, but we had good times together as kids together. So, despite it felt very awkward to reach out I send a small present and a note of congratulation for her and her new born son.

I believe this is the way to be.