Good time is when you dont have any desire to be elsewhere doing something else

I remember thinking this at Geoje during a family trip with mom, dad, and brother.

My brother and I were in university then.

We were at a quiet beach side, and Dad, my brother, and myself were throwing flat rocks to make them bounce.

And I thought, wow, this is perfect. I lost track of time. I don’t want to be elsewhere doing anything other than what we are doing now.

Isn’t that something? What more can a person want? I would dare say it is in some ways more beautiful than moments of big wins or sexual climax.

It is that feeling you feel when you are around a campfire with people you care about.

I think I feel such moments so much more acutely due to how distracted I was. Especially when I was growing up. Online games, fantasy novels, or animes. I often had moments where I felt like, “Gosh, I want to just go home and do x, y, z rather than this.”

Even when I was in front of nature’s most significant pieces of art. Like the Grand Canyon, the 9-year-old Yeop just wanted to play Pokémon Red or MapleStory with his brother at home. (And it hurts to say it, but the brother part is more of a bonus… sorry bro.)

So I cherish these moments when I feel at peace. No desire for something else. Just what’s in front is fine.

I yearn to have as many moments like this.

Bright side of the story is that being conscious of this seems to have a positive correlation to the frequency of these moments.

By being conscious, I mean collecting moments as such. As part of the routine diary practice, I capture these moments. Try to think of what led to it.

So far, the common themes are:

  • Family
  • Friendship
  • Nature
  • Movement
  • Campfire

What ruins it:

  • Excessive alcohol
  • Caffeine
  • Smartphone alerts
  • YouTube Shorts
  • News articles

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